You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yep, I do what works for me.Damocles said:yea, I haven't read most of the rest of it... I'm not talking about the volume of food, it's just a really restricted diet. Whatev, tho, eat what works for ya.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thanks, guys. I won't say exactly when I'll get up to 400 pounds but it is definitely within sight. As for correct form, I'm careful. I also follow stronglifts deadlifting technique. He posted a link to a video about proper deadlift form somewhere in the H&F section...I-tallionStallion said:Excellent job!! Break those limits my friend, its what this is all about!
BTW you should get a video of yourself doing it so we can make sure you got the right form.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I stretch between sets. TBH, I do fine without the warm up sets. My time in the gym is limited and taking the time to load the smaller weights then rack them and get the larger weights and then do the sets then rack those weights takes up precious time. For as long as I remember I just do my sets.Quagmire911 said:Why no warm up? Are you mad man?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What about stair climbing? I always perform those before I work out? BTW, after Quagmire posted his opinions on the subject I skimmed the thread about stretching pre workout which has the link to stronglift's website. I haven't had a chance to read it thouroughly so I won't comment on anything, avoiding injury is always a concern of mine. Fortunately I haven't been sidelined very often due to muscle strain or pull, the only time I really had to take time off was about a year ago after I pulled my trapezius doing some rows. I'm fortunate to have avoided injuries while working out, that's why I do stretch between sets.Quiksilver said:Just go for a 5 minute bike/elliptical and then do light/dynamic stretches on the main muscle groups, that should take care of warmup.
Remember this Quik:Quiksilver said:Just go for a 5 minute bike/elliptical and then do light/dynamic stretches on the main muscle groups, that should take care of warmup.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.