"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
my first video: deadlift 340x7 raw
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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the video was choppy on my computer so I can't really give an opinion on the form, however the numbers say it's a good lift for your size and age. the grip strength and endurance (since I could make out you weren't using straps, bout the only thing I could see lol) are also impressive. 
md3sign
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thanks - ice what do you mean "dont drop the bar"?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Could someone explain how to execute a deadlift to me? It looks like its just the same as a squat except the bar is in front of you and so you use your back more than your legs. Also it seems you are supposed to bring the bar to a complete stop on the floor between reps. Is that all there is to it?
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Nice! one question though, how are you suppose to grip the bar for a deadlift? overgrip/undergrip or bit of both?
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double overhand is standard competition grip but over/under is stronger so you can go heavier on it.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:
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Over/under (alternate grip) is MUCH stronger. I have no idea why, but it is. Probably puts your body at some weird mechanical advantage. I couldn't hold on to 280lbs for more than 3 reps until I switched grips - now I don't even think about the grip.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:
Double overhand standard competition? What do you mean by that? All the WRs are set with an alternate grip ...
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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It does have to do with the mechanics. Hands are more powerful in the underhand, rathern than the overhand in most ways.
Moreover it's 4 fingers, to 1 thumb, so there's a slight imbalance if you put both hands the same way. The opposing grips lock things in place to the best of your gripping ability.
Going heavier helps to build good forearms. For me, that's the first things to go.
Someone mentioned somewhere else that they "lean" back. I'd be careful. The deadlift is a standing position, not a "lean" back position, especially at the high weights some lift. If you're lifting heavy, just getting the bar up for 5+ reps will be enough to work your back thoroughly. And if you saw the videos attached this one, then you can see what wonders come of PLing. If those guys could drop weight, they'd be ripped. Most can't get super thing, hence they guys of that size are attracted to PL...their genetic structure lends itself to being naturally big and the excess fat acts as padding, provides a strength boost, and decreases some of the distance you go on those major lifts. It isn't advised to do so, but for these guys, being scrawny wouldn't add an advantage they desire to have.
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It does have to do with the mechanics. Hands are more powerful in the underhand, rathern than the overhand in most ways.
Moreover it's 4 fingers, to 1 thumb, so there's a slight imbalance if you put both hands the same way. The opposing grips lock things in place to the best of your gripping ability.
Going heavier helps to build good forearms. For me, that's the first things to go.
Someone mentioned somewhere else that they "lean" back. I'd be careful. The deadlift is a standing position, not a "lean" back position, especially at the high weights some lift. If you're lifting heavy, just getting the bar up for 5+ reps will be enough to work your back thoroughly. And if you saw the videos attached this one, then you can see what wonders come of PLing. If those guys could drop weight, they'd be ripped. Most can't get super thing, hence they guys of that size are attracted to PL...their genetic structure lends itself to being naturally big and the excess fat acts as padding, provides a strength boost, and decreases some of the distance you go on those major lifts. It isn't advised to do so, but for these guys, being scrawny wouldn't add an advantage they desire to have.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Everyone - thanks
Going for 350 x whatever this Friday, but I won't be taping it (I'll be doing it at a gym while I'm on vacation). I actually set a pretty sick squat PR today (for me anyway) which I taped, but I don't have time to upload/edit it right now. It's worth the wait thoughDrum&Bass said:
Yea, that's typical university gym for ya. There are a few big dudes, but I very rarely see them.Cruise said:
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nice dude. be careful though, if you get too strong you might hurt the girls once you get in bed. haha
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lol .. yea gonna have to watch it with those bear hugs. on the flip side, it's easier to toss girls around. they seem to like that
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.