Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
my first video: deadlift 340x7 raw
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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the video was choppy on my computer so I can't really give an opinion on the form, however the numbers say it's a good lift for your size and age. the grip strength and endurance (since I could make out you weren't using straps, bout the only thing I could see lol) are also impressive. 
md3sign
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thanks - ice what do you mean "dont drop the bar"?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Could someone explain how to execute a deadlift to me? It looks like its just the same as a squat except the bar is in front of you and so you use your back more than your legs. Also it seems you are supposed to bring the bar to a complete stop on the floor between reps. Is that all there is to it?
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Nice! one question though, how are you suppose to grip the bar for a deadlift? overgrip/undergrip or bit of both?
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double overhand is standard competition grip but over/under is stronger so you can go heavier on it.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:
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Over/under (alternate grip) is MUCH stronger. I have no idea why, but it is. Probably puts your body at some weird mechanical advantage. I couldn't hold on to 280lbs for more than 3 reps until I switched grips - now I don't even think about the grip.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:
Double overhand standard competition? What do you mean by that? All the WRs are set with an alternate grip ...
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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It does have to do with the mechanics. Hands are more powerful in the underhand, rathern than the overhand in most ways.
Moreover it's 4 fingers, to 1 thumb, so there's a slight imbalance if you put both hands the same way. The opposing grips lock things in place to the best of your gripping ability.
Going heavier helps to build good forearms. For me, that's the first things to go.
Someone mentioned somewhere else that they "lean" back. I'd be careful. The deadlift is a standing position, not a "lean" back position, especially at the high weights some lift. If you're lifting heavy, just getting the bar up for 5+ reps will be enough to work your back thoroughly. And if you saw the videos attached this one, then you can see what wonders come of PLing. If those guys could drop weight, they'd be ripped. Most can't get super thing, hence they guys of that size are attracted to PL...their genetic structure lends itself to being naturally big and the excess fat acts as padding, provides a strength boost, and decreases some of the distance you go on those major lifts. It isn't advised to do so, but for these guys, being scrawny wouldn't add an advantage they desire to have.
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It does have to do with the mechanics. Hands are more powerful in the underhand, rathern than the overhand in most ways.
Moreover it's 4 fingers, to 1 thumb, so there's a slight imbalance if you put both hands the same way. The opposing grips lock things in place to the best of your gripping ability.
Going heavier helps to build good forearms. For me, that's the first things to go.
Someone mentioned somewhere else that they "lean" back. I'd be careful. The deadlift is a standing position, not a "lean" back position, especially at the high weights some lift. If you're lifting heavy, just getting the bar up for 5+ reps will be enough to work your back thoroughly. And if you saw the videos attached this one, then you can see what wonders come of PLing. If those guys could drop weight, they'd be ripped. Most can't get super thing, hence they guys of that size are attracted to PL...their genetic structure lends itself to being naturally big and the excess fat acts as padding, provides a strength boost, and decreases some of the distance you go on those major lifts. It isn't advised to do so, but for these guys, being scrawny wouldn't add an advantage they desire to have.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Everyone - thanks
Going for 350 x whatever this Friday, but I won't be taping it (I'll be doing it at a gym while I'm on vacation). I actually set a pretty sick squat PR today (for me anyway) which I taped, but I don't have time to upload/edit it right now. It's worth the wait thoughDrum&Bass said:
Yea, that's typical university gym for ya. There are a few big dudes, but I very rarely see them.Cruise said:
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nice dude. be careful though, if you get too strong you might hurt the girls once you get in bed. haha
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lol .. yea gonna have to watch it with those bear hugs. on the flip side, it's easier to toss girls around. they seem to like that
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.