"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
my first video: deadlift 340x7 raw
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Warboss Alex
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the video was choppy on my computer so I can't really give an opinion on the form, however the numbers say it's a good lift for your size and age. the grip strength and endurance (since I could make out you weren't using straps, bout the only thing I could see lol) are also impressive. 
md3sign
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thanks - ice what do you mean "dont drop the bar"?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Could someone explain how to execute a deadlift to me? It looks like its just the same as a squat except the bar is in front of you and so you use your back more than your legs. Also it seems you are supposed to bring the bar to a complete stop on the floor between reps. Is that all there is to it?
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Nice! one question though, how are you suppose to grip the bar for a deadlift? overgrip/undergrip or bit of both?
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double overhand is standard competition grip but over/under is stronger so you can go heavier on it.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:
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Over/under (alternate grip) is MUCH stronger. I have no idea why, but it is. Probably puts your body at some weird mechanical advantage. I couldn't hold on to 280lbs for more than 3 reps until I switched grips - now I don't even think about the grip.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:
Double overhand standard competition? What do you mean by that? All the WRs are set with an alternate grip ...
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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It does have to do with the mechanics. Hands are more powerful in the underhand, rathern than the overhand in most ways.
Moreover it's 4 fingers, to 1 thumb, so there's a slight imbalance if you put both hands the same way. The opposing grips lock things in place to the best of your gripping ability.
Going heavier helps to build good forearms. For me, that's the first things to go.
Someone mentioned somewhere else that they "lean" back. I'd be careful. The deadlift is a standing position, not a "lean" back position, especially at the high weights some lift. If you're lifting heavy, just getting the bar up for 5+ reps will be enough to work your back thoroughly. And if you saw the videos attached this one, then you can see what wonders come of PLing. If those guys could drop weight, they'd be ripped. Most can't get super thing, hence they guys of that size are attracted to PL...their genetic structure lends itself to being naturally big and the excess fat acts as padding, provides a strength boost, and decreases some of the distance you go on those major lifts. It isn't advised to do so, but for these guys, being scrawny wouldn't add an advantage they desire to have.
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It does have to do with the mechanics. Hands are more powerful in the underhand, rathern than the overhand in most ways.
Moreover it's 4 fingers, to 1 thumb, so there's a slight imbalance if you put both hands the same way. The opposing grips lock things in place to the best of your gripping ability.
Going heavier helps to build good forearms. For me, that's the first things to go.
Someone mentioned somewhere else that they "lean" back. I'd be careful. The deadlift is a standing position, not a "lean" back position, especially at the high weights some lift. If you're lifting heavy, just getting the bar up for 5+ reps will be enough to work your back thoroughly. And if you saw the videos attached this one, then you can see what wonders come of PLing. If those guys could drop weight, they'd be ripped. Most can't get super thing, hence they guys of that size are attracted to PL...their genetic structure lends itself to being naturally big and the excess fat acts as padding, provides a strength boost, and decreases some of the distance you go on those major lifts. It isn't advised to do so, but for these guys, being scrawny wouldn't add an advantage they desire to have.
A-Unit
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
md3sign
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Everyone - thanks
Going for 350 x whatever this Friday, but I won't be taping it (I'll be doing it at a gym while I'm on vacation). I actually set a pretty sick squat PR today (for me anyway) which I taped, but I don't have time to upload/edit it right now. It's worth the wait thoughDrum&Bass said:
Yea, that's typical university gym for ya. There are a few big dudes, but I very rarely see them.Cruise said:
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nice dude. be careful though, if you get too strong you might hurt the girls once you get in bed. haha
md3sign
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lol .. yea gonna have to watch it with those bear hugs. on the flip side, it's easier to toss girls around. they seem to like that
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.