You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
double overhand is standard competition grip but over/under is stronger so you can go heavier on it.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:Nice! one question though, how are you suppose to grip the bar for a deadlift? overgrip/undergrip or bit of both?
Over/under (alternate grip) is MUCH stronger. I have no idea why, but it is. Probably puts your body at some weird mechanical advantage. I couldn't hold on to 280lbs for more than 3 reps until I switched grips - now I don't even think about the grip.~|[DJ Neubie]|~ said:Nice! one question though, how are you suppose to grip the bar for a deadlift? overgrip/undergrip or bit of both?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
you must be watching a different video than I did. it was under control the whole way.Ice Cold said:The only thing is - don't drop the bar at the bottom.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Going for 350 x whatever this Friday, but I won't be taping it (I'll be doing it at a gym while I'm on vacation). I actually set a pretty sick squat PR today (for me anyway) which I taped, but I don't have time to upload/edit it right now. It's worth the wait thoughDrum&Bass said:Awesome !
whats next ?
Yea, that's typical university gym for ya. There are a few big dudes, but I very rarely see them.Cruise said:Good stuff.
The funny part is when the guy in the background gets on the bench with the twenty pound DBs.
PleasureKing said:nice dude. be careful though, if you get too strong you might hurt the girls once you get in bed. haha
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.