poonologist
Don Juan
this is an excellent post.its like conversational skills 101.i really like this because it pretty much sounds like an exact science 
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
My Conversation Tip: 'Nouning'
- Thread starter silverwex
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I've been having some troubles with cold approaches recently, and this is exactly what I was looking for to clear that up... thanks dude.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
SOLDIERM16
Don Juan
bump this ish. you can literally go on forever... WOW!
Bump again!
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
Chris Dash
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I use to use this back in the day.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Docs
Banned
A very good post and added to the Tip Album. Conversation skills are key.
For a great example of how to really use this tip, check out the 40-year-old virgin's flawless execution
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.