poonologist
Don Juan
this is an excellent post.its like conversational skills 101.i really like this because it pretty much sounds like an exact science 
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My Conversation Tip: 'Nouning'
- Thread starter silverwex
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I've been having some troubles with cold approaches recently, and this is exactly what I was looking for to clear that up... thanks dude.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SOLDIERM16
Don Juan
bump this ish. you can literally go on forever... WOW!
Bump again!
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
Chris Dash
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I use to use this back in the day.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Docs
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A very good post and added to the Tip Album. Conversation skills are key.
For a great example of how to really use this tip, check out the 40-year-old virgin's flawless execution
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.