poonologist
Don Juan
this is an excellent post.its like conversational skills 101.i really like this because it pretty much sounds like an exact science 
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My Conversation Tip: 'Nouning'
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I've been having some troubles with cold approaches recently, and this is exactly what I was looking for to clear that up... thanks dude.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SOLDIERM16
Don Juan
bump this ish. you can literally go on forever... WOW!
Bump again!
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
Chris Dash
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I use to use this back in the day.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Docs
Banned
A very good post and added to the Tip Album. Conversation skills are key.
For a great example of how to really use this tip, check out the 40-year-old virgin's flawless execution
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.