poonologist
Don Juan
this is an excellent post.its like conversational skills 101.i really like this because it pretty much sounds like an exact science 
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
My Conversation Tip: 'Nouning'
- Thread starter silverwex
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I've been having some troubles with cold approaches recently, and this is exactly what I was looking for to clear that up... thanks dude.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SOLDIERM16
Don Juan
bump this ish. you can literally go on forever... WOW!
Bump again!
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
Chris Dash
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I use to use this back in the day.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Docs
Banned
A very good post and added to the Tip Album. Conversation skills are key.
For a great example of how to really use this tip, check out the 40-year-old virgin's flawless execution
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.