poonologist
Don Juan
this is an excellent post.its like conversational skills 101.i really like this because it pretty much sounds like an exact science 
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
My Conversation Tip: 'Nouning'
- Thread starter silverwex
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I've been having some troubles with cold approaches recently, and this is exactly what I was looking for to clear that up... thanks dude.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SOLDIERM16
Don Juan
bump this ish. you can literally go on forever... WOW!
Bump again!
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
This is the same sort of technique I use for conversations and it never fails. I think Silverwex does an excellent job of describing how it's done.
Sure it might come out robotic or like an interrogation if you just keep asking question after question, but I think this is meant as a guide for keeping conversation flowing rather than a foundation of conversation.
When you pick out a noun, elaborate a little using your experience or what you know of it. Showing her that you can relate will lead her to believe that you have a lot of mutual interests and she'll actually start to enjoy talking to you and feel appreciated.
Chris Dash
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I use to use this back in the day.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
Just take the key words out and ask any random question about it. Works really good.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Docs
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A very good post and added to the Tip Album. Conversation skills are key.
For a great example of how to really use this tip, check out the 40-year-old virgin's flawless execution
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.
Andy, the Virgin, is advised by a friend just to take what the girl says and ask the questions back. It goes as follows:
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HB: Can I help you?
Virgin: I don't know. Can you?
HB: Are you looking for something?
V: Is there something I should be looking for?
HB: [Laughs] We have a lot of books. So, maybe it depends on what you like.
V: What do you like?
HB: We have a great section of... do-it-yourself.
V: Do you like to...
"do it yourself"?
HB: Sometimes. I mean... if the mood strikes.
HB: How is the mood
striking you now?
HB: [laughing, tittering] What's your name?
V: What's your name?
HB: I'm Beth.
V: Andy
HB: Don't tell on me, okay, Andy?
V: I wont... Unless you want to be told on... Beth.