I went on to read some real life letters of response to another person who had a similar problem as mine. The gf told her bf about her MMF experience and as we all would do, he freaked out, showed resentment, cast judgment and got distant. As normal he was sad and unhappy, uncomfortable and lost it...but stayed on for a bit to try and work it out.
Then all the posters (females of course) were saying that the guy is a "jerk a*sshole bastard insecure wimp, p*ssy, abusive , control freak" simply because he was not ok with her threesome.
Basically these female posters cast the same judgment on the boyfriend as most of the guys here cast the same judgment on my girlfriend. See where this is pretty f*cked up? Wow they seriously want this guy dead!!! (I pretty much concluded that these females are fat, lonely feminist and sl*ts themselves who say you go girl whenever they go "liberate" themselves to the point of social, emotional, traditional, family, ethics/principles, class and physical degradation.
They were seriously recommending the poster (the gf who had the threesome) to throw out his stuff, call the cops, leave him without telling him etc...al because he was not happy about it.
What is wrong with the world these days? I would be so damn suicidal if one of these women are my own mother. They think there are no boundaries to everything that damn want to do.
Some of girls these days expect their men to be "happy" with the girls threesome, but they get extremely judgmental about their bf's BJ in an alley from a stranger a few years ago. Some females call out double standard when they the worst of the worst.
Think about the divorce rates, families with no love, f*cked up emo children, fights and abusive relationships because people take the easy way (yet cowardly) to just cast judgment and they go f*ck all these other people just cos it is "liberating" and also it is the best way to get over things. These feminist preach on things they want and never have to pay for consequences and sh*t.
I hate this god-damn effeminate and feminist matrix. THEY WANT ALL THE GLORY, PRIZE, THE BEST WITHOUT WORKING FOR IT OR PAYING FOR THE CONSEQUENCE!!!!
I hate being stuck in the middle of all this crap. I know she won't do it again. I don't want a threesome. Hell even my own mother and my sister could do the same treatment for their husbands as my gf has done for me. I relly wish there would be more women like my mother and sister. They can satisfy their husbands with so much valuable stuff, emotional support, be a strong female figure and lover and unconditional love. Some women these days praise that they only want to be sexually glorified and not be victimised for not being good on anything else, yet they cry foul when they get seen or used as a piece of meat. I really hate this new movement of women who want to have this "Keeping up with the Jones' GANGBANGs. Sometimes I think I am going prude as I get old. I wouldnt have a threesome. Sure I would love it but I think long term these days...How it is going to affect me as a growing human being and how I would raise my kids "MY DADDY IS A MANWH*RE"
But there is the HOR MATRIX. Should I be blissfully ignorant or the edgy, paranoid realist?
I know I would regret it if I break up with my girl. 10 years down the line I would think to myself, "That was a very stupid reason I broke up with her for." I guess I am not mature enough to be secure but then again who can stomach this sort of situation? But I am willing to do whatever it takes and man up to my own insecurities and work smart to fix it.
My girl has done nothing wrong to me. She couldn't do me wrong in a year what any girl in my past has done in a week.
See, THIS post is why I encourage all to ACCEPT the world, and women, and men, too, AS THEY ARE. Expectations of fairness, faithfulness, honesty, and all other pollyanna cr*p are doomed to disappointment, eventually.
I'm not saying that there aren't good people, or that good things don't happen. And it's ok to seek those good things, and to try to surround yourself with good people. But never allow yourself to fall into complacency. Expect only that people will behave as they behave.
You will be pleasantly surprised with good things sometimes. Grab those little crumbs of "goodness" and treasure them. Because you will be hit with bad stuff more often. It's not an EVIL world, it just IS.
Wanting the world and other people to be AS YOU WISH rather than AS THEY ARE is the MAIN source of the frustration which led to Rudy's rant above. Rudy sounds like a good guy. He wants to be happy. He wants this girl, who he likes and who treats him well, to be happy, too. And he's not going to be happy, and he's not going to help her in her pursuit of happiness, if he keeps on wanting things to be different than they ARE.
I'm not saying he should ignore the threesome stuff. I'm not saying he should like it or find it abhorrent. That's up to him. But, the truth is the truth. She did it. She might have done more, we don't know. But whatever she did, she did. If he wants to break up over that issue, it's ok to do so. If he wishes to continue with her, that's ok, too. But he needs to decide. Weigh out the "bad past" (which I personally don't think is all THAT bad, but we all have our own measuring sticks) against the quality of the relationship now. And then, depending upon how it all weighs out, then dump her or don't. Either choice seems reasonable in this situation (at least to me.) It just depends on what he wants to do.
But to continue with this attitude of H_ors, matrix, divorce, crumbling society, etc., and BEMOANING it accomplishes nothing except continuing his frustration. I know Rudy is likely merely venting here, but I believe he will be happier later if he begins to accept the world as it is.
Accept the "good." Accept the "bad." No expectations. There is no big conspiracy. It's just life. Life in a confusing social climate, with "confusing" women. But just life. Seek not for "fairness," "goodness," etc. where it does not lie. Rejoice when you stumble upon it.