Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
In what world is a 40yrs old (you mentioned her age in another thread) divorced woman a catch?
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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You're clueless.In what world is a 40yrs old (you mentioned her age in another thread) divorced woman a catch?
It reminds me of the slogan "War is peace, freedom is slavery, and ignorance is strength" from Orwell's 1984.
High quality character and very feminine don't belong in the same sentence with divorced. Like, c'mon man. And don't even try give a sob story as to why she's divorced, we've heard enough of that from @BeExcellent
Easy, if that's exactly what they want to do. Don't you think?
Why doesn't it work now?
Who said it doesn't work? Not me. Im in a close to year relationship. If it ended right now, I'd be making my process work before the weekend was over.
Never really understood the sitting next to her bit. I mean I guess I understand it gives you some kino opportunities and it's easy to turn and kiss her. I just have always preferred to sit across each other and make eye contact while we are talking. I don't imagine it makes that much difference really, just a matter of preference. I'm not sure sitting next to her automatically signals approval though. Getting up and moving next to her might, I don't know. Some people seem to prefer to sit across from each other and some people seem to like to sit next to each other. Doesn't mean much, I guess. Just something I find interesting.
Eye contact is good but you don't want to sit so far away that you can't easily touch. Eye contact while touching > eye contact without touching. Which is why you gotta know or be able to stake out the venue, even if going by yelp pics.
Well, it's not like you can't kino (lightly) when you're sitting across from each other. Although I agree there are more possibilities to get more physical if you're sitting next to her. I just don't like turning my head to talk to her.
I was married once for 8 years. I think the biggest reason to never marrying again (so far) has been pickyness. I refuse to marry someone who doesnt check a lot of boxes. Once I really get to know a chick and there are obviously differences on big ticket items, its over and the search continues.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
When you do the rotations, how often do you see each of the women? That sounds like a lot of work.
Try turning your body
Once a week. Not much work honestly. First date follows the algorithm, from there its generally them coming over to my place or a sporadic date here or there.
But the big ticket items could be filtered for early on to save everyone's time. I know that women are great at faking things for the first few months but there's sophisticated tests that can give you the answers early on.
I don't like sitting sideways in a seat. Anyway, as I said, I prefer to sit across from someone so I can make eye contact when talking with her. This reminds me of old pickup theory where they used to tell you not to turn toward a girl because it showed too much eagerness/interest. Some PUAs even wanted you facing away from her (albeit this was on the original pickup, not an actual date), and talk to her over your shoulder. I've never been an advocate of that, though, I always thought that bit of advice was pretty asinine.
Depends on the situation. And a woman can fill a role without being someone to settle down with.
I've never liked sitting across from someone on a first date because psychologically that's how adversaries sit when they are against each other rather than on the same side.
Lol, like playing chess or arm wrestling? Like I said, whatever you prefer.
That and also like an interrogator and person being interrogated or two opposing lawyers and their clients working on settlements, etc...
I'm more comfortable being across from the person. It's never once entered my head that the person across from me was the opposition.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.