Glassguy
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A former plate of mine and current close friend (yes its possible to have a close platonic female friend) gives me a hard time and calls my dating process an "Algorithm". She gives me shyte about it, but it most certainly works, and it also worked on her when I first started seeing her several years ago.
I am a man of processes. I pay attention to what works and what doesnt work, the results things bring and I build upon what works and dismiss what doesnt. I do this in business, dating, social circles, etc. The old saying "Most people dont plan to fail, they fail to plan" is certainly true in almost every aspect of life. Dating is no exception.
My process is simple:
*first "dates" are a mere invitation to join me for a drink or pizza and a drink (if a drinks date is warranted based on her behavior)
*I nearly always go to one of 3 places for the first drink date. I do this because the people there (both social crowd and workers/servers) all know me so it is a good thing to be in a place where people acknowledge who you are (its a good sign of social status to your date)
*I ALWAYS tell them what I drive and tell them to wait on me if they get there first. I walk in with them for a reason- I want to see their body and I dont want to walk in and sit down after the chick is already inside. Its hard to tell a body type if the woman is already sitting down inside.
*I nearly always order the same drink and when possible, I order a drink for her (women love that). The drink selection is good for getting a slight buzz but never drunk. Just enough to allow the woman to be chatty. I am not there to do all of the talking but rather to do most of the listening and screen for red flags (a topic all by itself)
*I generally will sit across the table from the woman but I always find something to show her on my phone if I feel a good vibe going and at that point I move over to sit beside her. I dont immediately sit next to a woman because I dont want her to feel as though I have given her any approval yet and I dont want to be stuck beside a woman if she ends up being super weird or the conversation sucks. I will move next to her once I feel as though my interest level in her is going to be high enough to be kissing (or more) later in the date.
*Upon exiting the restaurant, I ALWAYS walk them to their car. If I am not feeling her, I give her a hug and tell her that I had a good time and to let me know when she makes it home safely.
*If I am feeling her, I will always transition from a hug to a kiss. ALWAYS. If we start making out, I ALWAYS say "Lets jump in your car so we are not out in the open/out in the cold/etc. Into the car we go where the making out will intensify. If things get heavier, based on schematics, I will either tell them to follow me home or I will follow them home if their house if free and mine is not.
The process is both simple and complex. Simple because anyone can do it as long as you know how to handle yourself from A-B so that you are building interest and building SEXUAL TENSION during the date (That is if you are vibing and attracted to the woman you are out with).
Its complex because just about everything that you do has a purpose and those purposes get you to the end result.
I make sure that I am well groomed. I dress nice but not over the top. I smell good (body wash and cologne). I display extreme confidence but not conceitedness during the date. I am direct, yet witty/sarcastic in a fun way. I dont offer information about me but I pay close attention to what a woman tells me....and they will tell you everything you need to hear if you lead the conversation and keep it going.
I do not bounce around from one place to another as a general practice like others do, to make it feel like several dates in one. I feel as if I can make a woman feel both comfortable, sexually interested and still leave them wanting more in just one location of the date. Nothing against those people that go to 2 or 3 places back to back, its just normally not my thing. Plus I dont have 3 hours to spend on a drinks date.
Remember, I am screening them and finding out my level of interest in them while also paying attention to the IOIs they are giving me throughout the date.
My "Algorithm" works 100% of the time. I find out my level of interest in them and I get to gauge their level of interest in me.
Happy Hunting.
I am a man of processes. I pay attention to what works and what doesnt work, the results things bring and I build upon what works and dismiss what doesnt. I do this in business, dating, social circles, etc. The old saying "Most people dont plan to fail, they fail to plan" is certainly true in almost every aspect of life. Dating is no exception.
My process is simple:
*first "dates" are a mere invitation to join me for a drink or pizza and a drink (if a drinks date is warranted based on her behavior)
*I nearly always go to one of 3 places for the first drink date. I do this because the people there (both social crowd and workers/servers) all know me so it is a good thing to be in a place where people acknowledge who you are (its a good sign of social status to your date)
*I ALWAYS tell them what I drive and tell them to wait on me if they get there first. I walk in with them for a reason- I want to see their body and I dont want to walk in and sit down after the chick is already inside. Its hard to tell a body type if the woman is already sitting down inside.
*I nearly always order the same drink and when possible, I order a drink for her (women love that). The drink selection is good for getting a slight buzz but never drunk. Just enough to allow the woman to be chatty. I am not there to do all of the talking but rather to do most of the listening and screen for red flags (a topic all by itself)
*I generally will sit across the table from the woman but I always find something to show her on my phone if I feel a good vibe going and at that point I move over to sit beside her. I dont immediately sit next to a woman because I dont want her to feel as though I have given her any approval yet and I dont want to be stuck beside a woman if she ends up being super weird or the conversation sucks. I will move next to her once I feel as though my interest level in her is going to be high enough to be kissing (or more) later in the date.
*Upon exiting the restaurant, I ALWAYS walk them to their car. If I am not feeling her, I give her a hug and tell her that I had a good time and to let me know when she makes it home safely.
*If I am feeling her, I will always transition from a hug to a kiss. ALWAYS. If we start making out, I ALWAYS say "Lets jump in your car so we are not out in the open/out in the cold/etc. Into the car we go where the making out will intensify. If things get heavier, based on schematics, I will either tell them to follow me home or I will follow them home if their house if free and mine is not.
The process is both simple and complex. Simple because anyone can do it as long as you know how to handle yourself from A-B so that you are building interest and building SEXUAL TENSION during the date (That is if you are vibing and attracted to the woman you are out with).
Its complex because just about everything that you do has a purpose and those purposes get you to the end result.
I make sure that I am well groomed. I dress nice but not over the top. I smell good (body wash and cologne). I display extreme confidence but not conceitedness during the date. I am direct, yet witty/sarcastic in a fun way. I dont offer information about me but I pay close attention to what a woman tells me....and they will tell you everything you need to hear if you lead the conversation and keep it going.
I do not bounce around from one place to another as a general practice like others do, to make it feel like several dates in one. I feel as if I can make a woman feel both comfortable, sexually interested and still leave them wanting more in just one location of the date. Nothing against those people that go to 2 or 3 places back to back, its just normally not my thing. Plus I dont have 3 hours to spend on a drinks date.
Remember, I am screening them and finding out my level of interest in them while also paying attention to the IOIs they are giving me throughout the date.
My "Algorithm" works 100% of the time. I find out my level of interest in them and I get to gauge their level of interest in me.
Happy Hunting.