Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You have an SHBG issue...big-time. There is no way you should have total test that high with FT barely normal. All of your T is being gobbled up by SHBG and is not usable...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I missed the second part. No, did not test SHBG but I’m going to order it up now.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This is a fantastic article for SHBG info.
T has very little to do with Erections. Check your progesterone to estradiol ratio.
I am so over this. Endocrinology cannot come fast enough.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Progesterone is far more important to your situation right now, FYI. Progesterone = natural Viagra.
Most people do chemistry experiments on their own every day by not getting proper sleep. Literally throws your body and hormones into turmoil and is one of the most stressful things you could do to it.
I have the endocrinologist in two weeks, until then I am taking Boron .. just ordered Tongkat. Was off for a week. Going to increase to 1k mg a day.
Is he doing blood work? If so make sure he includes full male/full female and DHEA-S in there as well
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I am uploading my prior work plus indicating I am on TRT but I will make sure to ask specifically. I feel like trash. Depressed etc. I am usually so upbeat and unreasonably c0cky. This blows.
No. Sleep deprivation is not comparable to experimenting with exogenous hormones.
You sure about that? All depends on how much. I'd argue that sleep deprivation is far more detrimental to your hormonal state than TRT.
Ask any navy seal how they feel after hell week.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
