Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You have an SHBG issue...big-time. There is no way you should have total test that high with FT barely normal. All of your T is being gobbled up by SHBG and is not usable...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I missed the second part. No, did not test SHBG but I’m going to order it up now.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This is a fantastic article for SHBG info.
T has very little to do with Erections. Check your progesterone to estradiol ratio.
I am so over this. Endocrinology cannot come fast enough.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Progesterone is far more important to your situation right now, FYI. Progesterone = natural Viagra.
Most people do chemistry experiments on their own every day by not getting proper sleep. Literally throws your body and hormones into turmoil and is one of the most stressful things you could do to it.
I have the endocrinologist in two weeks, until then I am taking Boron .. just ordered Tongkat. Was off for a week. Going to increase to 1k mg a day.
Is he doing blood work? If so make sure he includes full male/full female and DHEA-S in there as well
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I am uploading my prior work plus indicating I am on TRT but I will make sure to ask specifically. I feel like trash. Depressed etc. I am usually so upbeat and unreasonably c0cky. This blows.
No. Sleep deprivation is not comparable to experimenting with exogenous hormones.
You sure about that? All depends on how much. I'd argue that sleep deprivation is far more detrimental to your hormonal state than TRT.
Ask any navy seal how they feel after hell week.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
