"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Most annoying sayings/verbal cliches?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ThunderMaverick
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I hate when people use the word, "synergy" also.
I f*cking hate that word! Some yuppie bullsh!t word to replace an already adequate word: cooperation.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Yeah, my teacher in high school forbid us from using that word. He actually would take a letter grade off of papers if he saw it in there.KarmaSutra said:
He would fail people for using it as well. I remember my midterm was a 69 for that class as well.
I NEVER use that label seriously. I only use that word with people that dislikes me like my girlfriends roommate. She wanted to date me, lost out, and now wishes that I wouldn't come over. Sucks to be her *jabs Ken785 in the eye with stick*Purple-Haze said:
comic_relief
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
SilverSonnet
Senior Don Juan
I hate it when people say..Your mum. I'm like...yeah, what about her?
blackomen
Don Juan
"Talk the talk"
"Emo"
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
RedPill
Master Don Juan
Fukken A man.DJDamage said:
Remember kids. . .
This thread is about cliches and what not. If you'll recall, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, so don't expect the vast majority of these expressions to go anywhere anytime soon. We first have to take care of this, that, and the other thing with these cliches before we can move on to over-used euphemisms, colloquialisms, double entendres, and asinine acronyms that somehow survived this cliche day of infamy.
There's no 'I' in 'team', so let's not put the cart before the horse and try to get too far outside the box. For all intents and purposes, I think we can git 'er done quickly if we just do it.
michaelhctam
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"You're Almost there!"
"No offence, but..."
"Is it just me or is it x?"
"0o0o0o!! You got burned/rinsed/gutted!"
"You wanna fight?!" or "FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT!!"
"00O00O X is getting pissed off now!"
"At least you tried....".
"Its ok, you did your best".
I FUKIN' HATE THOSE!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
"I'm different from all the other girls/guys. I do [add activity]..."
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KarmaSutra
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"I love you."
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.