She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Phyzzle said:At the end of the day, this thread is a perfect storm of cliche's.
Yeah, my teacher in high school forbid us from using that word. He actually would take a letter grade off of papers if he saw it in there.KarmaSutra said:This has got to be the worst word in our language. I absolutely loathe anyone who prefaces every other word with: "like".
I fvcking hate it with a passion.
I NEVER use that label seriously. I only use that word with people that dislikes me like my girlfriends roommate. She wanted to date me, lost out, and now wishes that I wouldn't come over. Sucks to be her *jabs Ken785 in the eye with stick*Purple-Haze said:BFFs for life!!!
This annoys me a great deal. The people who profess this BS are precisely the ones that go around spewing lies about their supposed "BF".
I hate labels like that. You are just setting yourself up for a fall!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You mean your teacher in HS made you 69 him for your mid-term testcomic_relief said:He would fail people for using it as well. I remember my midterm was a 69 for that class as well.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Fukken A man.DJDamage said:When you come to work on monday and you aren't feeling really well and someone says: " Sounds like someone has a case of the monday's"
I believe you should get your ass kicked for saying something like that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
or phone rings:Levex said:Phone rings.
Me: Hello?
some douche: "who is this?" or " who you?"
....motha****er YOU called ME!!!!!!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.