Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Canadian Catnip said:The video is even more AFC than the song.
I don't want to give away the ending. Watch what the poor guy does.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Y7WDWP8WMs
Bible_Belt said:
Not even close, professor. Richard Marx wrote that one about his wife, who he's been married to for 20 years now. That song is just guilty of having been overplayed it was painful, back when most of you were in diapers.Bible_Belt said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
thursday said:Absolutely laughable. Instead of wasting time figuring out what songs are 'AFC', how about figuring out that discussing such things in the first place makes you an 'AFC'.
Because true DJ's don't sit around bad mouthing things.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ah, loosen up dude, this is just one of those fun TGIF threads. Relax.thursday said:Absolutely laughable. Instead of wasting time figuring out what songs are 'AFC', how about figuring out that discussing such things in the first place makes you an 'AFC'.
Because true DJ's don't sit around bad mouthing things.
amen. it's just like usa covering britney spears & who's the baby daddy of anna nichole smith 24/7 instead of things like the war or anything else.thursday said:Absolutely laughable. Instead of wasting time figuring out what songs are 'AFC', how about figuring out that discussing such things in the first place makes you an 'AFC'.
Because true DJ's don't sit around bad mouthing things.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.