"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Most AFC Songs
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Canadian Catnip said:
That's a GUY singing!?
I thought it was some old, fat, ugly dyke!When I heard this song in a drugstore, I wanted to trash the place!
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Bible_Belt said:
Yeah, but he's got GREAT hair!
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So much of the stuff from the emo movement just sums up AFC style music.
Gangster Of Love
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Not even close, professor. Richard Marx wrote that one about his wife, who he's been married to for 20 years now. That song is just guilty of having been overplayed it was painful, back when most of you were in diapers.Bible_Belt said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gangster Of Love
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Mike Tyson killed Mary.
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That song, "Can't Live (if living is without you)," --the one Mariah Carey covered--but the original, is a major wussbaggishness!
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thursday said:
You've got a point.
I can say that I've got Wasp's first album playing a lot lately. I find that very DJ encouraging.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"The Reason" by Hoobustank:
I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
That's why I need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you (x4)
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
That's why I need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you (x4)
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
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amen. it's just like usa covering britney spears & who's the baby daddy of anna nichole smith 24/7 instead of things like the war or anything else.thursday said:
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AFC
Honey Come Home- Glen Campbell
I Can't Stop Loving You- Ray Charles
2 out of 3- Meatloaf
Honey Come Home- Glen Campbell
I Can't Stop Loving You- Ray Charles
2 out of 3- Meatloaf
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
oh gosh I hate James Blunt. I wish he really would kill himself. The reason that song is so wbAFC is because he gets obsessed with a girl he hasn't even met, based solely on her looks!
How about that new hit by Elliot Yamin? ("Wait for You")
How about that new hit by Elliot Yamin? ("Wait for You")
drummer
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Better Than Me by Hinder. Case Closed with the opening line.. "I think you can do much better than me"
Billy Talent - Surrender (and it gets played heavy on Canadian radio)
http://youtube.com/watch?v=RVeCoxeAq84
- It's like a rock song about understanding oneself being an AFC, but not understanding or wanting to fix it.
And this song...
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eBGIQ7ZuuiU
http://youtube.com/watch?v=RVeCoxeAq84
- It's like a rock song about understanding oneself being an AFC, but not understanding or wanting to fix it.
And this song...
http://youtube.com/watch?v=eBGIQ7ZuuiU
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james blunt is an poster boy for AFC behavior, YUK!!!!!
i wish there was concrete down there instead of water
what a maggot
i wish there was concrete down there instead of water
what a maggot
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.