"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mixed signals. is she interested or not?

duke104

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This girl keeps giving me mixed signals. For the most part there's a low interest level, but whenever I tell her that I'm hanging out with another girl she gets all weird and asks me a bunch of questions about her like who is she, what are you 2 gonna do, are you gonna hang out with her again, etc. Kinda sounds like she gets jealous but I can't tell...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Have you made a move on this girl (asked her out? sex? kissed?)??

Otherwise it's pointless to sit around analyzing imaginary signs from her. Girls get jealous for stupid reasons. Sometimes it's because they want to bang you...and a lot of the time it's just because they don't want another girl stealing the attention you're giving them.
 

Tiguere

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You know what you have to do to find out if she is interested or not.
 

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duke104 said:
This girl keeps giving me mixed signals. For the most part there's a low interest level, but whenever I tell her that I'm hanging out with another girl she gets all weird and asks me a bunch of questions about her like who is she, what are you 2 gonna do, are you gonna hang out with her again, etc. Kinda sounds like she gets jealous but I can't tell...
Have you been flirting with her? Have you EVER made it show that you, as a man, are interested in her as a woman?

I don't mean to toot my own horn, but read this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=176631

Basically....stop sitting around trying to find signs of whether or not she is interested. YOU take the initiative and find out by going for what you want. If you wanna know, invite her to do something with you. Make a move. Be a man and get what you want.
 

garruk

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honestly im guilty of all this "was that an ioi?" stuff but these guys are right. the only way is to make a move.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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