"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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mixed signals. is she interested or not?

duke104

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This girl keeps giving me mixed signals. For the most part there's a low interest level, but whenever I tell her that I'm hanging out with another girl she gets all weird and asks me a bunch of questions about her like who is she, what are you 2 gonna do, are you gonna hang out with her again, etc. Kinda sounds like she gets jealous but I can't tell...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Have you made a move on this girl (asked her out? sex? kissed?)??

Otherwise it's pointless to sit around analyzing imaginary signs from her. Girls get jealous for stupid reasons. Sometimes it's because they want to bang you...and a lot of the time it's just because they don't want another girl stealing the attention you're giving them.
 

Tiguere

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You know what you have to do to find out if she is interested or not.
 

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duke104 said:
This girl keeps giving me mixed signals. For the most part there's a low interest level, but whenever I tell her that I'm hanging out with another girl she gets all weird and asks me a bunch of questions about her like who is she, what are you 2 gonna do, are you gonna hang out with her again, etc. Kinda sounds like she gets jealous but I can't tell...
Have you been flirting with her? Have you EVER made it show that you, as a man, are interested in her as a woman?

I don't mean to toot my own horn, but read this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=176631

Basically....stop sitting around trying to find signs of whether or not she is interested. YOU take the initiative and find out by going for what you want. If you wanna know, invite her to do something with you. Make a move. Be a man and get what you want.
 

garruk

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honestly im guilty of all this "was that an ioi?" stuff but these guys are right. the only way is to make a move.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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