"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Merry Christmas card to ex ?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
CuddleJunkie
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Then it's a no imo. What are you trying to acomplish by sending her the ecard?
CuddleJunkie
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No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
....a thousand times NO.
Block her on all social media, leave her in the past and get on with your life.
To show her you have no hard feelings anymore? Firstly where is this need to prove you have no hard feelings coming from? She dropped you for another dude. Your ego was hurt and basically you could say you lost her approval (of you as a person). There's some deep need in you that wants her to approve of the fact that "you've no hard feelings". Let it go. Let it go. Let it go. You only need to know that you have no hard feelings anymore and the best way to do that is ignore her existence and validate your own life.
Secondly, upone receiving your card I don't think she will say "ah that's fantastic, he has no hard feelings, he's such a great guy". Probably she will view the card with derision and pity. She has long moved on and you are in the past to her.
The fact that you have this need to prove to her that there is no hard feelings shows that you haven't fully moved on/let go.
Furthermore, she dumped you for another dude....she does not fvcking deserve the time of day from you. Anyone who disrespects you like that needs to be cut out of your life like the cancer that they are. She is a malignant cvnt. A malignant cvnt.
Block the biatch and move on. You're only validation is in living your own life.
It's time for you to get tough....with yourself.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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marmel75
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Fvck no. What the hell is wrong with you?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Glumix
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No hard feelings? So why do you ask questions? Why are you hesitant? What are you afraid of?
She dumped you for another man and you are going to write her a christmas card?! After 1.5 years of NC? Don't you think it's her job to write you a christmas card with some apologies?!