"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Merry Christmas card to ex ?
- Thread starter Casan0va
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
CuddleJunkie
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Then it's a no imo. What are you trying to acomplish by sending her the ecard?
CuddleJunkie
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No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
....a thousand times NO.
Block her on all social media, leave her in the past and get on with your life.
To show her you have no hard feelings anymore? Firstly where is this need to prove you have no hard feelings coming from? She dropped you for another dude. Your ego was hurt and basically you could say you lost her approval (of you as a person). There's some deep need in you that wants her to approve of the fact that "you've no hard feelings". Let it go. Let it go. Let it go. You only need to know that you have no hard feelings anymore and the best way to do that is ignore her existence and validate your own life.
Secondly, upone receiving your card I don't think she will say "ah that's fantastic, he has no hard feelings, he's such a great guy". Probably she will view the card with derision and pity. She has long moved on and you are in the past to her.
The fact that you have this need to prove to her that there is no hard feelings shows that you haven't fully moved on/let go.
Furthermore, she dumped you for another dude....she does not fvcking deserve the time of day from you. Anyone who disrespects you like that needs to be cut out of your life like the cancer that they are. She is a malignant cvnt. A malignant cvnt.
Block the biatch and move on. You're only validation is in living your own life.
It's time for you to get tough....with yourself.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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marmel75
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Fvck no. What the hell is wrong with you?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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No hard feelings? So why do you ask questions? Why are you hesitant? What are you afraid of?
She dumped you for another man and you are going to write her a christmas card?! After 1.5 years of NC? Don't you think it's her job to write you a christmas card with some apologies?!