RickTheToad
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Celeb or not, you can do better than this...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Making moves with a movie star
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RickTheToad
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Seriously though. She's just another lady. She's used to dudes treating her special because she's a celeb. Treat her the same you treat any other lady. Be yourself. That is what initially attracted her to you. Don't try to directly impress. Just act like you.
mrgoodstuff
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We were just saying she has to like you the same or more. Its pointless otherwise.
marmel75
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You can't. You just walk away and if she responds then you do your thing. If not then perhaps shoot her a text in a few weeks.
marmel75
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The minute you care whether you fvcked it up, you already have.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Glassguy
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With that oneitis attitude you've already fvcked it up.