RickTheToad
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Celeb or not, you can do better than this...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Making moves with a movie star
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RickTheToad
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Seriously though. She's just another lady. She's used to dudes treating her special because she's a celeb. Treat her the same you treat any other lady. Be yourself. That is what initially attracted her to you. Don't try to directly impress. Just act like you.
mrgoodstuff
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We were just saying she has to like you the same or more. Its pointless otherwise.
marmel75
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You can't. You just walk away and if she responds then you do your thing. If not then perhaps shoot her a text in a few weeks.
marmel75
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The minute you care whether you fvcked it up, you already have.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Glassguy
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With that oneitis attitude you've already fvcked it up.