I am a total afc but this is what happened. girl said she was going to meet me in the city tmr for dinner.... and i replied back with, ur such a bad girl, playing hard to get all the time... then she said, in that case, im not going to see you for dinner..... then i replied back wit are you serious???? then after waiting an hour, i made another afc mistake by texting her "i rly liked you, but we had a good run. bye." have a chuckle if u will, but i was wondering is it over and if there is no chance of repairing the damage?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
made epic afc mistake and need someone to help me out.....
- Thread starter cguy2004
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
Maybe next time a girl agrees to meet, just say "Cool, I'll see you then" and stop with the ****y/funny nonsense when it's not needed.
QFTWhitePimp said:Maybe next time a girl agrees to meet, just say "Cool, I'll see you then" and stop with the ****y/funny nonsense when it's not needed.
+1
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
1 Bad Dude
Don Juan
Gotta love texting. This wouldn't happen if you guys would slowly allow girls into your life one step at a time. Like waiting until you've had at least two, maybe three dates with her before texting.
Or immature like the OP who tries to throw in ****y and funny all the time cause he heard it on the internet?LoneWolf said:sounds like an immature girl anyway. to cancel a date cause of that? she saved you some hassle.
neghitzbrah
Don Juan
I only text to schedule a phone call. I only call to schedule a meetup.
I agree with 1 Bad Dude. Texting is retarded and by far the worst invention ever.
I agree with 1 Bad Dude. Texting is retarded and by far the worst invention ever.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.