I am a total afc but this is what happened. girl said she was going to meet me in the city tmr for dinner.... and i replied back with, ur such a bad girl, playing hard to get all the time... then she said, in that case, im not going to see you for dinner..... then i replied back wit are you serious???? then after waiting an hour, i made another afc mistake by texting her "i rly liked you, but we had a good run. bye." have a chuckle if u will, but i was wondering is it over and if there is no chance of repairing the damage?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
made epic afc mistake and need someone to help me out.....
- Thread starter cguy2004
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
Maybe next time a girl agrees to meet, just say "Cool, I'll see you then" and stop with the ****y/funny nonsense when it's not needed.
QFTWhitePimp said:Maybe next time a girl agrees to meet, just say "Cool, I'll see you then" and stop with the ****y/funny nonsense when it's not needed.
+1
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
1 Bad Dude
Don Juan
Gotta love texting. This wouldn't happen if you guys would slowly allow girls into your life one step at a time. Like waiting until you've had at least two, maybe three dates with her before texting.
Or immature like the OP who tries to throw in ****y and funny all the time cause he heard it on the internet?LoneWolf said:sounds like an immature girl anyway. to cancel a date cause of that? she saved you some hassle.
neghitzbrah
Don Juan
I only text to schedule a phone call. I only call to schedule a meetup.
I agree with 1 Bad Dude. Texting is retarded and by far the worst invention ever.
I agree with 1 Bad Dude. Texting is retarded and by far the worst invention ever.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.