"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lost my Job...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Amazing said:Get a new job?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
Good way to kick a man when he is down!!! Maybe he is looking for empathy instead of sympathy. Did that everevesman said:LOL. The answer's so obvious. But he's begging for sympathy instead.
cross your mind?
Improving education does not put food on the table right at the moment.
Jobs are hard to come by these days.
OP, hang in there my man and ignore the weak posters.
DonGorgon
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I lost my job in may and I had mixed feelings about it. On one hand, my financial goals were delayed, but on the other I had an entire free summer to do what I wanted. It was like a long vacation! Don't get me wrong it wasn't all fun, but the girlfriend supported me as did my friends so all in all it was as good as anyone can ask for. During that time I dedicated myself to reading A+ and N+ texts ( in anticipation of taking both tests), as well as some financial text and Machiavelli. I spent some time in the AM working dryland drills to get better at hockey, and spent a lot of the day in the library keeping my mind sharp. It was a full day's effort and that kept me sane.
Good luck getting back on your feet.
DonGorgon
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i applied for ever job in my field in GA every single one. and it took 7 months...lolsynergy1 said:use the time to get educated or acquire skills you didn't have time to before. Work out more. Don't necessarily strain your budget, but unemployment should float you through this limbo in the job market.
I lost my job in may and I had mixed feelings about it. On one hand, my financial goals were delayed, but on the other I had an entire free summer to do what I wanted. It was like a long vacation! Don't get me wrong it wasn't all fun, but the girlfriend supported me as did my friends so all in all it was as good as anyone can ask for. During that time I dedicated myself to reading A+ and N+ texts ( in anticipation of taking both tests), as well as some financial text and Machiavelli. I spent some time in the AM working dryland drills to get better at hockey, and spent a lot of the day in the library keeping my mind sharp. It was a full day's effort and that kept me sane.
Good luck getting back on your feet.