"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lose frame when im drunk

OlympicTim

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Whenever i get drunk i always lose my frame and mindset that i am the prize and she is not. I drunk text and just chase girls whenever i am drunk.

I feel like this is because my frame/mindset isnt strong enough.

Has anyone experienced this? I feel like i need to work on inner game more before i start going to the bar or does anyone have experience with this and have a quick fix?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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El Payaso

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Solution: don't get drunk.
 

BrainDamage92

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Are you kidding me my drunk frame is my best I just smile alot and grab them by the waist\ass (works best if the girl is in her drunk frame aswell) :D
 

Drummer93

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I've been there and that's why i only have one drink when im out with a girl for the first time.
 

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OlympicTim said:
Whenever i get drunk i always lose my frame and mindset that i am the prize and she is not. I drunk text and just chase girls whenever i am drunk.

I feel like this is because my frame/mindset isnt strong enough.

Has anyone experienced this? I feel like i need to work on inner game more before i start going to the bar or does anyone have experience with this and have a quick fix?
Normal. Alcohol can make any "performance" sloppy. Gaming is opening sets and to some extents it is "performing". Would drinking on the job make your work better or....slightly sloppy.

I'm referencing Julien from RSD again who games and recommends gaming sober. Because your truly doing it from your own "steam" so to speak. His point of view is imagine if you gamed sober consistently for a year....all without the crutch of alcohol.....how much would that consolidate your inner game? how socially skilled and comfortable would you become? how easy would cold approaching in any situation become?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you're deluded, man. You are worse when drunk. If you have any success at all, it's with women who are also drunks.
 

marmel75

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The only frame you have when you are drunk is called "I'm an idiot"
 

amazingswayze

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i lose frame when I'm high on weed. all substances affect us differently. i understand dude. it's not like you're screwing up big time but if this is a problem for you, just don't get drunk. it will make you stronger if you stay sober. work on that frame and never stop improving. good luck!
 
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