"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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long distance break up (method poll)

According to the situation below - which comm. method would you use?

  • Phone

    Votes: 9 100.0%

  • Email

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Letter

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • MSN / other chat

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Text message

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    9
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dipset_mafia

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OKAY

when an "in person" break up is geographically impossible. which of the following methods are the best to use...

because every situation calls for different action, the situation will be:

You're dating an attractive girl, (hb8) she's annoying though, and the sex isn't that great. You've been seeing her for 2-3 months. You've gone home for christmas/new years and you really need to break it off. You allegedly took her virginity.

how would you proceed? . . .

email, phone, text message, msn/chat, letter,
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have to go back to school after the holidays
 
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Do it in person when you go back to school. In the meantime, date other women.

You really should have done it before you left.
 
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I can't do it in person when i come home.

well I could, but the sooner the better!

it might be the least don juanish thing i've ever done, but i'm getting back with my ex... who doesn't know about new girl... i was considering doing it when i got back, but I mean, she's going to start getting a clue pretty soon, i haven't been very conversational with her lately.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well if you won't do it in person, the phone would be the next best. How would you rather get dumped? I'd be insulted with anything other than in person.
 
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thats true....

man, i would've done it before if i'd known i was going to get back with the ex...

ex came over the night before i left for home...

so phone it is... think its a good idea to mention that i'm gettin back with ex? or what? i'm just wondering what i can tell this girl.. i mean im gonna have to tell her straight up, but i'm putting it off because i can't find the words...
 
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Once again, think about how you would want to be dumped.

I would want to be given the reasons why so that I could improve myself if necessary and try to correct any problems for future relationships.
 
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you're right.

UGH.

I just don't want to commit 20 minutes of my life to this phone call...

hopefully i say my piece and she hangs up. best case scenario

worst case scenario she goes insane and firebombs my house..... women...
 
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any form other than conversing means you are chickesh**. I don't even like the phone idea, but writing it down makes you a pu$$y.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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believe me, ofcourse i'm gonna phone her

i put a poll up so that people would click the damn link, so tired of posting and getting nonresponse...

that and i was half hoping that someone would be like.. "ya emails are okay, " and then have everyone agree, hahaha, just to make things easier..

but ya, i'm going to call her and 'converse' about it.. i'm just really not looking forward to it... not at all...
 
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