"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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long distance break up (method poll)

According to the situation below - which comm. method would you use?

  • Phone

    Votes: 9 100.0%
  • Email

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Letter

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • MSN / other chat

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Text message

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    9

dipset_mafia

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OKAY

when an "in person" break up is geographically impossible. which of the following methods are the best to use...

because every situation calls for different action, the situation will be:

You're dating an attractive girl, (hb8) she's annoying though, and the sex isn't that great. You've been seeing her for 2-3 months. You've gone home for christmas/new years and you really need to break it off. You allegedly took her virginity.

how would you proceed? . . .

email, phone, text message, msn/chat, letter,
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I have to go back to school after the holidays
 

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Do it in person when you go back to school. In the meantime, date other women.

You really should have done it before you left.
 

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I can't do it in person when i come home.

well I could, but the sooner the better!

it might be the least don juanish thing i've ever done, but i'm getting back with my ex... who doesn't know about new girl... i was considering doing it when i got back, but I mean, she's going to start getting a clue pretty soon, i haven't been very conversational with her lately.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well if you won't do it in person, the phone would be the next best. How would you rather get dumped? I'd be insulted with anything other than in person.
 

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thats true....

man, i would've done it before if i'd known i was going to get back with the ex...

ex came over the night before i left for home...

so phone it is... think its a good idea to mention that i'm gettin back with ex? or what? i'm just wondering what i can tell this girl.. i mean im gonna have to tell her straight up, but i'm putting it off because i can't find the words...
 

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Once again, think about how you would want to be dumped.

I would want to be given the reasons why so that I could improve myself if necessary and try to correct any problems for future relationships.
 

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you're right.

UGH.

I just don't want to commit 20 minutes of my life to this phone call...

hopefully i say my piece and she hangs up. best case scenario

worst case scenario she goes insane and firebombs my house..... women...
 

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any form other than conversing means you are chickesh**. I don't even like the phone idea, but writing it down makes you a pu$$y.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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believe me, ofcourse i'm gonna phone her

i put a poll up so that people would click the damn link, so tired of posting and getting nonresponse...

that and i was half hoping that someone would be like.. "ya emails are okay, " and then have everyone agree, hahaha, just to make things easier..

but ya, i'm going to call her and 'converse' about it.. i'm just really not looking forward to it... not at all...
 
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