"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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long distance break up (method poll)

According to the situation below - which comm. method would you use?

  • Phone

    Votes: 9 100.0%
  • Email

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Letter

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • MSN / other chat

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Text message

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    9

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OKAY

when an "in person" break up is geographically impossible. which of the following methods are the best to use...

because every situation calls for different action, the situation will be:

You're dating an attractive girl, (hb8) she's annoying though, and the sex isn't that great. You've been seeing her for 2-3 months. You've gone home for christmas/new years and you really need to break it off. You allegedly took her virginity.

how would you proceed? . . .

email, phone, text message, msn/chat, letter,
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I have to go back to school after the holidays
 

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Do it in person when you go back to school. In the meantime, date other women.

You really should have done it before you left.
 

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I can't do it in person when i come home.

well I could, but the sooner the better!

it might be the least don juanish thing i've ever done, but i'm getting back with my ex... who doesn't know about new girl... i was considering doing it when i got back, but I mean, she's going to start getting a clue pretty soon, i haven't been very conversational with her lately.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well if you won't do it in person, the phone would be the next best. How would you rather get dumped? I'd be insulted with anything other than in person.
 

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thats true....

man, i would've done it before if i'd known i was going to get back with the ex...

ex came over the night before i left for home...

so phone it is... think its a good idea to mention that i'm gettin back with ex? or what? i'm just wondering what i can tell this girl.. i mean im gonna have to tell her straight up, but i'm putting it off because i can't find the words...
 

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Once again, think about how you would want to be dumped.

I would want to be given the reasons why so that I could improve myself if necessary and try to correct any problems for future relationships.
 

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you're right.

UGH.

I just don't want to commit 20 minutes of my life to this phone call...

hopefully i say my piece and she hangs up. best case scenario

worst case scenario she goes insane and firebombs my house..... women...
 

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any form other than conversing means you are chickesh**. I don't even like the phone idea, but writing it down makes you a pu$$y.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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believe me, ofcourse i'm gonna phone her

i put a poll up so that people would click the damn link, so tired of posting and getting nonresponse...

that and i was half hoping that someone would be like.. "ya emails are okay, " and then have everyone agree, hahaha, just to make things easier..

but ya, i'm going to call her and 'converse' about it.. i'm just really not looking forward to it... not at all...
 
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