"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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long distance break up (method poll)

According to the situation below - which comm. method would you use?

  • Phone

    Votes: 9 100.0%
  • Email

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Letter

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • MSN / other chat

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Text message

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    9

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OKAY

when an "in person" break up is geographically impossible. which of the following methods are the best to use...

because every situation calls for different action, the situation will be:

You're dating an attractive girl, (hb8) she's annoying though, and the sex isn't that great. You've been seeing her for 2-3 months. You've gone home for christmas/new years and you really need to break it off. You allegedly took her virginity.

how would you proceed? . . .

email, phone, text message, msn/chat, letter,
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have to go back to school after the holidays
 

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Do it in person when you go back to school. In the meantime, date other women.

You really should have done it before you left.
 

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I can't do it in person when i come home.

well I could, but the sooner the better!

it might be the least don juanish thing i've ever done, but i'm getting back with my ex... who doesn't know about new girl... i was considering doing it when i got back, but I mean, she's going to start getting a clue pretty soon, i haven't been very conversational with her lately.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Well if you won't do it in person, the phone would be the next best. How would you rather get dumped? I'd be insulted with anything other than in person.
 

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thats true....

man, i would've done it before if i'd known i was going to get back with the ex...

ex came over the night before i left for home...

so phone it is... think its a good idea to mention that i'm gettin back with ex? or what? i'm just wondering what i can tell this girl.. i mean im gonna have to tell her straight up, but i'm putting it off because i can't find the words...
 

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Once again, think about how you would want to be dumped.

I would want to be given the reasons why so that I could improve myself if necessary and try to correct any problems for future relationships.
 

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you're right.

UGH.

I just don't want to commit 20 minutes of my life to this phone call...

hopefully i say my piece and she hangs up. best case scenario

worst case scenario she goes insane and firebombs my house..... women...
 

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any form other than conversing means you are chickesh**. I don't even like the phone idea, but writing it down makes you a pu$$y.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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believe me, ofcourse i'm gonna phone her

i put a poll up so that people would click the damn link, so tired of posting and getting nonresponse...

that and i was half hoping that someone would be like.. "ya emails are okay, " and then have everyone agree, hahaha, just to make things easier..

but ya, i'm going to call her and 'converse' about it.. i'm just really not looking forward to it... not at all...
 
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