"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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im someone in my very early 20s and im sort of lost in life what i want to acheive. I know i want to be successful and I want to gain a variety of skills that help me build there, but Im sort of lost on whether I want to sort of "live out my 20s" or grind it out and make it so that my 30s are better. Everyone around me is sort of living out their 20s, and in all honesty I fee as though i am missing out. Regardless, it's just a struggle to keep my head down sometimes and instead i should be going out and meeting people. Don't know.

I guess im asking for life advice, things i should be doing to set up my life right, stuff like that etc...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi Revannt,
Get your foundation firmly in place,Qualifications and Capital are so important,the rest will come.
 

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Don’t waste your youth, essence - ( semen), time on chasing pvssy….learn to grown and invest that time into your future, finance, and connections. Look into starting a business, research some places where you want to reside and learn.
 

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Don’t waste your youth, essence - ( semen), time on chasing pvssy….learn to grown and invest that time into your future, finance, and connections. Look into starting a business, research some places where you want to reside and learn.
anything else one shoudld know? or should look out for?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Im sort of lost on whether I want to sort of "live out my 20s" or grind it out and make it so that my 30s are better. Everyone around me is sort of living out their 20s, and in all honesty I fee as though i am missing out.
It doesnt have to be either or, sometimes Life Is about balance. One of my favorite Youtubers is Howtobeast go watch him.
 

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anything else one shoudld know? or should look out for?
Focus also on raising your vibration and taking the high road whenever you can.
 

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-Write down Mr. Chase's sage observation
52:56-53:03
My smartphone doesn't have audio speaker working, plus I don't have a pc right now.
Could you guys write what he say?
Purchase this book
Just to be sure are you talking about
How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use
?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My smartphone doesn't have audio speaker working, plus I don't have a pc right now.
Could you guys write what he say?

Just to be sure are you talking about
How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use
?
sorry i was a little confused on this too. is there a particular reason i should be reading how to be misreable? feel like thats counter intuitive? or maybe i am wrong. just clarifying!
 

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My smartphone doesn't have audio speaker working, plus I don't have a pc right now.
Could you guys write what he say?
Quote: "It can be really hard to know how to be a man... Practically every man I know is still working on it"



"Just to be sure are you talking about
How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use?"

Yep. Listen to the interview I linked, and you'll understand my motives for recommending it
 

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I‘d say chase hot girls and commit to ONE before 27. Get married. Alot of men think “when I get established and make money, then the hot girls will come around and beg me to have sex and get pregnant“.

Doesn't work that way.
 

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I‘d say chase hot girls and commit to ONE before 27. Get married. Alot of men think “when I get established and make money, then the hot girls will come around and beg me to have sex and get pregnant“.

Doesn't work that way.

how else does it work then? im confused.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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@BadBoy89

I can see that you're reccomending to have an emotional impact and get experienced with women, and your career will come.
Your narrative is pretty different from what I actually saw working IRL, and what I'd actually reccomend or pursue
 

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@BadBoy89

I can see that you're reccomending to have an emotional impact and get experienced with women, and your career will come.
Your narrative is pretty different from what I actually saw working IRL, and what I'd actually reccomend or pursue
what do u reccomend?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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