"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Life advice for a person in their very early 20s

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im someone in my very early 20s and im sort of lost in life what i want to acheive. I know i want to be successful and I want to gain a variety of skills that help me build there, but Im sort of lost on whether I want to sort of "live out my 20s" or grind it out and make it so that my 30s are better. Everyone around me is sort of living out their 20s, and in all honesty I fee as though i am missing out. Regardless, it's just a struggle to keep my head down sometimes and instead i should be going out and meeting people. Don't know.

I guess im asking for life advice, things i should be doing to set up my life right, stuff like that etc...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hi Revannt,
Get your foundation firmly in place,Qualifications and Capital are so important,the rest will come.
 

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Don’t waste your youth, essence - ( semen), time on chasing pvssy….learn to grown and invest that time into your future, finance, and connections. Look into starting a business, research some places where you want to reside and learn.
 

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Don’t waste your youth, essence - ( semen), time on chasing pvssy….learn to grown and invest that time into your future, finance, and connections. Look into starting a business, research some places where you want to reside and learn.
anything else one shoudld know? or should look out for?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Im sort of lost on whether I want to sort of "live out my 20s" or grind it out and make it so that my 30s are better. Everyone around me is sort of living out their 20s, and in all honesty I fee as though i am missing out.
It doesnt have to be either or, sometimes Life Is about balance. One of my favorite Youtubers is Howtobeast go watch him.
 

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anything else one shoudld know? or should look out for?
Focus also on raising your vibration and taking the high road whenever you can.
 

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-Write down Mr. Chase's sage observation
52:56-53:03
My smartphone doesn't have audio speaker working, plus I don't have a pc right now.
Could you guys write what he say?
Purchase this book
Just to be sure are you talking about
How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use
?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My smartphone doesn't have audio speaker working, plus I don't have a pc right now.
Could you guys write what he say?

Just to be sure are you talking about
How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use
?
sorry i was a little confused on this too. is there a particular reason i should be reading how to be misreable? feel like thats counter intuitive? or maybe i am wrong. just clarifying!
 

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My smartphone doesn't have audio speaker working, plus I don't have a pc right now.
Could you guys write what he say?
Quote: "It can be really hard to know how to be a man... Practically every man I know is still working on it"



"Just to be sure are you talking about
How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use?"

Yep. Listen to the interview I linked, and you'll understand my motives for recommending it
 

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I‘d say chase hot girls and commit to ONE before 27. Get married. Alot of men think “when I get established and make money, then the hot girls will come around and beg me to have sex and get pregnant“.

Doesn't work that way.
 

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I‘d say chase hot girls and commit to ONE before 27. Get married. Alot of men think “when I get established and make money, then the hot girls will come around and beg me to have sex and get pregnant“.

Doesn't work that way.

how else does it work then? im confused.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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@BadBoy89

I can see that you're reccomending to have an emotional impact and get experienced with women, and your career will come.
Your narrative is pretty different from what I actually saw working IRL, and what I'd actually reccomend or pursue
 

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@BadBoy89

I can see that you're reccomending to have an emotional impact and get experienced with women, and your career will come.
Your narrative is pretty different from what I actually saw working IRL, and what I'd actually reccomend or pursue
what do u reccomend?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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