I've done a search on Body Language and there's a ton of threads on the subject but I noticed that some threads say when sitting "You should lean back" when talking, while another says "You should lean forward." Which one is it? What if you're eating dinner and talking at some restaurant, you can't lean back, right? LOL. Wouldn't leaning forward with eye contact, smile and stimulating convo work better?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lean in, or Lean back???
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Teflon_Mcgee
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Just be relaxed, bro.
If you lean back with any tension in your body you have failed at demonstrating good body language. If you lean forward with tension you have failed.
Body language is very important but worrying about leaning forward vs. back is such a waste. I don't care what Style and Mystery say.
A relaxed, confidant posture will win every time. Of course, I generally lean back.
If you lean back with any tension in your body you have failed at demonstrating good body language. If you lean forward with tension you have failed.
Body language is very important but worrying about leaning forward vs. back is such a waste. I don't care what Style and Mystery say.
A relaxed, confidant posture will win every time. Of course, I generally lean back.
Derek Flint
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Get your inner game together, and these minor details will take care of themselves.
Oldboy
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Second that.
Was on a coffee date a couple weeks ago, and noticed I was leaning in a lot, she was leaning back. Hmm. Realized I was trying too hard in the conversation as well.
So I started leaning back. And she started leaning in. And she started to work harder in the conversation. Innerestin'...
Of course, the best is when you're both leaning in, you're in your own little shared world and everything else is shut out. Get that vibe going, lay down some kino, and it's on.
Well, it's Saturday night, and I'm off. The girls are out there!
Totally agree. You can decorate a house as much as you like, but if it has no foundation it'll fall apart anyway."She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Remulak
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lean with it, rock with it