I've done a search on Body Language and there's a ton of threads on the subject but I noticed that some threads say when sitting "You should lean back" when talking, while another says "You should lean forward." Which one is it? What if you're eating dinner and talking at some restaurant, you can't lean back, right? LOL. Wouldn't leaning forward with eye contact, smile and stimulating convo work better?
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
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Lean in, or Lean back???
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Just be relaxed, bro.
If you lean back with any tension in your body you have failed at demonstrating good body language. If you lean forward with tension you have failed.
Body language is very important but worrying about leaning forward vs. back is such a waste. I don't care what Style and Mystery say.
A relaxed, confidant posture will win every time. Of course, I generally lean back.
If you lean back with any tension in your body you have failed at demonstrating good body language. If you lean forward with tension you have failed.
Body language is very important but worrying about leaning forward vs. back is such a waste. I don't care what Style and Mystery say.
A relaxed, confidant posture will win every time. Of course, I generally lean back.
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Second that.
Was on a coffee date a couple weeks ago, and noticed I was leaning in a lot, she was leaning back. Hmm. Realized I was trying too hard in the conversation as well.
So I started leaning back. And she started leaning in. And she started to work harder in the conversation. Innerestin'...
Of course, the best is when you're both leaning in, you're in your own little shared world and everything else is shut out. Get that vibe going, lay down some kino, and it's on.
Well, it's Saturday night, and I'm off. The girls are out there!
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lean with it, rock with it