Lean in, or Lean back???

[RedGTP]

I've done a search on Body Language and there's a ton of threads on the subject but I noticed that some threads say when sitting "You should lean back" when talking, while another says "You should lean forward." Which one is it? What if you're eating dinner and talking at some restaurant, you can't lean back, right? LOL. Wouldn't leaning forward with eye contact, smile and stimulating convo work better?

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

Just be relaxed, bro.
If you lean back with any tension in your body you have failed at demonstrating good body language. If you lean forward with tension you have failed.

Body language is very important but worrying about leaning forward vs. back is such a waste. I don't care what Style and Mystery say.

A relaxed, confidant posture will win every time. Of course, I generally lean back.

 

[Derek Flint]

Get your inner game together, and these minor details will take care of themselves.

 

[Oldboy]

if im truly interested/attracted to what a girl has to say i'd probably lean forward and touch her as well. Otherwise, I'd be leaning back and taking up space

Second that.

Was on a coffee date a couple weeks ago, and noticed I was leaning in a lot, she was leaning back. Hmm. Realized I was trying too hard in the conversation as well.

So I started leaning back. And she started leaning in. And she started to work harder in the conversation. Innerestin'...

Of course, the best is when you're both leaning in, you're in your own little shared world and everything else is shut out. Get that vibe going, lay down some kino, and it's on.

Well, it's Saturday night, and I'm off. The girls are out there!

 

[Sean O]

Get your inner game together, and these minor details will take care of themselves.

Totally agree. You can decorate a house as much as you like, but if it has no foundation it'll fall apart anyway.

 

[Remulak]

lean with it, rock with it