"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lack of Experience

OlympicTim

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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old_skoolr

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Nah dont be honest, no good will come of it.

Just hit her up again like everythings normal, stick it in pin her down and smash her *****.

now that youve popped your cherry you need to learn to control your d1ck.

Go slow, go fast, tease her. Sh1t like that.
 

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
This is OJT. Everyone starts this way. Don't make a big deal of it. Study up. Just don't go all crazy with performance anxiety. Sex is one of our ultimate enjoyments.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alvafe

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yeah its normal, if you want to change that hit her up again and keep doing, like anything you get better at it the more you do it
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Fake it until you make it. My 1st girlfriend had no idea I was a virgin and I was nervous as hell after getting her naked. Admit nothing and deny everything. I take my secrets to the grave.
 

stephen-silver

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I'd be honest, or maybe just say "I havn't done this in a while." That'll make her sure you don't have any STDs, or anything.
 

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
Why would you be honest with her? Makes no sense. Get your emotions out with your therapist, not the girl you are sleeping with.

She probably already knows 8 ways from Sunday that you have no idea what you were doing. No point in reminding her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Harry Wilmington

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Funny the responses here. I was a virgin until I was 23, and would openly tell women I was "saving myself." The result? Just about every woman that showed me attention was giving me the strongest signals in the world that they wanted to be the one to break me, like it would be a badge of honor. Sooooo...

With that said, though: even if you weren't a virgin, the truth is that with the majority of women you hook up with, that first time is going to be just "okay." You haven't really learned each other's bodies yet enough to where you can do all the things you need to do to REALLY get her off. So, no need to go blabbing if you didn't tell her beforehand - just know that it will get better the more you do it. Hope this helps!
 

Infern0

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I lost mine late too, to be honest there is not as much to it as you think. If you lay the foundations with good flirting, teasing etc and get her properly warmed up then she'll think pretty much whatever you do is amazing.

Get out of your head
 
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