"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lack of Experience

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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old_skoolr

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Nah dont be honest, no good will come of it.

Just hit her up again like everythings normal, stick it in pin her down and smash her *****.

now that youve popped your cherry you need to learn to control your d1ck.

Go slow, go fast, tease her. Sh1t like that.
 

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
This is OJT. Everyone starts this way. Don't make a big deal of it. Study up. Just don't go all crazy with performance anxiety. Sex is one of our ultimate enjoyments.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alvafe

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yeah its normal, if you want to change that hit her up again and keep doing, like anything you get better at it the more you do it
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Fake it until you make it. My 1st girlfriend had no idea I was a virgin and I was nervous as hell after getting her naked. Admit nothing and deny everything. I take my secrets to the grave.
 

stephen-silver

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I'd be honest, or maybe just say "I havn't done this in a while." That'll make her sure you don't have any STDs, or anything.
 

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
Why would you be honest with her? Makes no sense. Get your emotions out with your therapist, not the girl you are sleeping with.

She probably already knows 8 ways from Sunday that you have no idea what you were doing. No point in reminding her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Harry Wilmington

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Funny the responses here. I was a virgin until I was 23, and would openly tell women I was "saving myself." The result? Just about every woman that showed me attention was giving me the strongest signals in the world that they wanted to be the one to break me, like it would be a badge of honor. Sooooo...

With that said, though: even if you weren't a virgin, the truth is that with the majority of women you hook up with, that first time is going to be just "okay." You haven't really learned each other's bodies yet enough to where you can do all the things you need to do to REALLY get her off. So, no need to go blabbing if you didn't tell her beforehand - just know that it will get better the more you do it. Hope this helps!
 

Infern0

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I lost mine late too, to be honest there is not as much to it as you think. If you lay the foundations with good flirting, teasing etc and get her properly warmed up then she'll think pretty much whatever you do is amazing.

Get out of your head
 
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