"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lack of Experience

OlympicTim

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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old_skoolr

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Nah dont be honest, no good will come of it.

Just hit her up again like everythings normal, stick it in pin her down and smash her *****.

now that youve popped your cherry you need to learn to control your d1ck.

Go slow, go fast, tease her. Sh1t like that.
 

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
This is OJT. Everyone starts this way. Don't make a big deal of it. Study up. Just don't go all crazy with performance anxiety. Sex is one of our ultimate enjoyments.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Alvafe

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yeah its normal, if you want to change that hit her up again and keep doing, like anything you get better at it the more you do it
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Fake it until you make it. My 1st girlfriend had no idea I was a virgin and I was nervous as hell after getting her naked. Admit nothing and deny everything. I take my secrets to the grave.
 

stephen-silver

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I'd be honest, or maybe just say "I havn't done this in a while." That'll make her sure you don't have any STDs, or anything.
 

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Well fellas I finally lost my virginity.

However I feel like the girl knew that I really had no clue what I was doing with her lady parts.

She wasnt moaning or anything and could tell I was nervous as ****.

If I **** this girl again should I just be honest with her about my lack of experience or you guys think I should just not say anything about it?
Why would you be honest with her? Makes no sense. Get your emotions out with your therapist, not the girl you are sleeping with.

She probably already knows 8 ways from Sunday that you have no idea what you were doing. No point in reminding her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Harry Wilmington

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Funny the responses here. I was a virgin until I was 23, and would openly tell women I was "saving myself." The result? Just about every woman that showed me attention was giving me the strongest signals in the world that they wanted to be the one to break me, like it would be a badge of honor. Sooooo...

With that said, though: even if you weren't a virgin, the truth is that with the majority of women you hook up with, that first time is going to be just "okay." You haven't really learned each other's bodies yet enough to where you can do all the things you need to do to REALLY get her off. So, no need to go blabbing if you didn't tell her beforehand - just know that it will get better the more you do it. Hope this helps!
 

Infern0

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I lost mine late too, to be honest there is not as much to it as you think. If you lay the foundations with good flirting, teasing etc and get her properly warmed up then she'll think pretty much whatever you do is amazing.

Get out of your head
 
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