"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Knock her off her pedestal with 3 words.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If you said this to a girl you had just met you would sound like a ****en mongo. If you have never met the girl before then how could she look "different"? Different from what?
Think about it mate, this is only used to knock a girl off a pedestal you accidentally put her on before, you will find some girls have themselves on a permanent pedestal in which case this would also work.
"You walk funny.."
When she gives you a "wtf" look, just say:
"I don't know, but it would appear as though one leg is faster than the other." You HAVE to say this with a straight face, though. Just watch her face as that little ego of hers pops right before your very eyes.
LOL.
The Main Event
Don Juan
You're not telling her she looks different to other girls. You're saying "it's been a while since I last saw you; you don't have the same effect on me you used to ... you know, back when I used to worship the ground you walked on", but not in as many words.
It takes her off her pedestal, yes, but the main purpose is to draw a big thick black line under your past AFC behaviour towards her, and move on.
You really want to communicate, "hey, you used to have me under your thumb, but I'm not so easily impressed nowadays, honey", but of course coming right out and saying that - or worse, throwing some banal insult at her - is desperate ... and transparently so.
"You look different" isn't an insult, at least not an overt one. But the girl can't help but get to thinking, "if I used to be a goddess to this guy, if he found everything about me perfect or as good as ... well, any change would be a step backwards ... right?"
"I almost didn't recongise you" serves to twist the knife that little bit harder. Very clever, very cruel. I love it.
To borrow from another poster, "maybe the way you carry yourself" would be a killer follow-up if she tries to pin you on specifics. Not sure I could keep a straight face through that one, but if you can, more power to you.
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The Main Event.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Capi Crimini
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Being vauge isn't always good. One it creates a mystery about you and your mind. But that can't hold up forever. You need something to back it up. It's good for initiation thought. Remeber in HS there are fewer 1 night stands. 2. most girls like to know the guy, that way they don't feel slutty and can assure themselves there doing the right thing.
Anyway. I think there have been better posts
To the above poster. Different doesn't mean worse. I've known AFCs to tell girls they look different. Sencond the way your saying only works if you havn't seen them in 3weeks+. If you walk up to a girl you've known for the past three years and just talked to yesterday and say
"hey. I almost didn't recognize you. "
Your not gonna pose the not AFC anymore sign, but hey I'm developing Alzcymers(sp?) sign.
The best way to show your not AFC anymore is get on with your life and go for other women... If you care enough that you have to show your past 'crush'
that you don't like her anymore. Your stooping back down to the AFC level. DJ's don't obsess. and revenge and having to prove to a chick that your not AFC is AFC and a form ofobsession. A DJ doesn't have to prove anything. he is.
Nough said... you guys need to read more post less
Capi Crimini
Banned
ninty percent of these are things you don't even have to think to think them up... baisically there a waste.
2.neg hits should be something that is seriously different or wrong with her. Not some pre-phrased thing. and they shouldn't be insults like. You look fatter. unless she is fatter, even then your on the verge of jerk if you do it to often. Once and while is good. And only after you've got rapport and a relationship.
If people need to post these for AFC to use them then were lost. You shouldn't have a little sheet of paper with all your insults for the day... creativity works better.
The Main Event
Don Juan
I'm talking a substantially longer timeframe than that, mate. I assume the original poster was too.
In response to another of your grievances, this tip isn't tailored to a highschool scenario. That's why it's in the grown ups' forum.
When I have 566 posts in a little over six months, I'll consider myself vulnerable to that particular criticism.
I am
The Main Event
Capi Crimini
Banned
I could have sworn this was teh HS fourm. lolyeah when I can't sleep I come here and rant.... but the majority of my posts are in Anything else. I try not to post tips unless there new ideas or somthing like that.
Thats what I ment in post less read more. I swear this was the HS thread. Thats what having Firefox get you. Damn tabs.lol
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The idea is to follow up this comment with disinterested signals and let her draw the negative conclusion herself.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.