"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Knock her off her pedestal with 3 words.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If you said this to a girl you had just met you would sound like a ****en mongo. If you have never met the girl before then how could she look "different"? Different from what?
Think about it mate, this is only used to knock a girl off a pedestal you accidentally put her on before, you will find some girls have themselves on a permanent pedestal in which case this would also work.
"You walk funny.."
When she gives you a "wtf" look, just say:
"I don't know, but it would appear as though one leg is faster than the other." You HAVE to say this with a straight face, though. Just watch her face as that little ego of hers pops right before your very eyes.
LOL.
The Main Event
Don Juan
You're not telling her she looks different to other girls. You're saying "it's been a while since I last saw you; you don't have the same effect on me you used to ... you know, back when I used to worship the ground you walked on", but not in as many words.
It takes her off her pedestal, yes, but the main purpose is to draw a big thick black line under your past AFC behaviour towards her, and move on.
You really want to communicate, "hey, you used to have me under your thumb, but I'm not so easily impressed nowadays, honey", but of course coming right out and saying that - or worse, throwing some banal insult at her - is desperate ... and transparently so.
"You look different" isn't an insult, at least not an overt one. But the girl can't help but get to thinking, "if I used to be a goddess to this guy, if he found everything about me perfect or as good as ... well, any change would be a step backwards ... right?"
"I almost didn't recongise you" serves to twist the knife that little bit harder. Very clever, very cruel. I love it.
To borrow from another poster, "maybe the way you carry yourself" would be a killer follow-up if she tries to pin you on specifics. Not sure I could keep a straight face through that one, but if you can, more power to you.
I am
The Main Event.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Capi Crimini
Banned
Being vauge isn't always good. One it creates a mystery about you and your mind. But that can't hold up forever. You need something to back it up. It's good for initiation thought. Remeber in HS there are fewer 1 night stands. 2. most girls like to know the guy, that way they don't feel slutty and can assure themselves there doing the right thing.
Anyway. I think there have been better posts
To the above poster. Different doesn't mean worse. I've known AFCs to tell girls they look different. Sencond the way your saying only works if you havn't seen them in 3weeks+. If you walk up to a girl you've known for the past three years and just talked to yesterday and say
"hey. I almost didn't recognize you. "
Your not gonna pose the not AFC anymore sign, but hey I'm developing Alzcymers(sp?) sign.
The best way to show your not AFC anymore is get on with your life and go for other women... If you care enough that you have to show your past 'crush'
that you don't like her anymore. Your stooping back down to the AFC level. DJ's don't obsess. and revenge and having to prove to a chick that your not AFC is AFC and a form ofobsession. A DJ doesn't have to prove anything. he is.
Nough said... you guys need to read more post less
Capi Crimini
Banned
ninty percent of these are things you don't even have to think to think them up... baisically there a waste.
2.neg hits should be something that is seriously different or wrong with her. Not some pre-phrased thing. and they shouldn't be insults like. You look fatter. unless she is fatter, even then your on the verge of jerk if you do it to often. Once and while is good. And only after you've got rapport and a relationship.
If people need to post these for AFC to use them then were lost. You shouldn't have a little sheet of paper with all your insults for the day... creativity works better.
The Main Event
Don Juan
I'm talking a substantially longer timeframe than that, mate. I assume the original poster was too.
In response to another of your grievances, this tip isn't tailored to a highschool scenario. That's why it's in the grown ups' forum.
When I have 566 posts in a little over six months, I'll consider myself vulnerable to that particular criticism.
I am
The Main Event
Capi Crimini
Banned
I could have sworn this was teh HS fourm. lolyeah when I can't sleep I come here and rant.... but the majority of my posts are in Anything else. I try not to post tips unless there new ideas or somthing like that.
Thats what I ment in post less read more. I swear this was the HS thread. Thats what having Firefox get you. Damn tabs.lol
milkncereal2
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The idea is to follow up this comment with disinterested signals and let her draw the negative conclusion herself.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.