"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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kiss rejected; how do you handle it?

john_1234

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of course, we know not to appear flustered and remain composed. do you start talking about whatevers as if nothing just happend? do you make some witty comment? do you hold eye contact w/ her and give a sly grin? what's the best way to handle a getting rejected when going for the kiss?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DasaniWater

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Just say give a laugh and say "I wasn't trying to kiss you is that what you thought?" Then they will be like oh really now? And they will try as hard as they can to land one on your lips.
 

john_1234

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haha... i can see that working if said in the right way. field tested?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Weak_Game

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depends you can usually tell if interest levels are high enough to warrant a kiss. obviously if she rejects you the interest level is pretty low. ive held out to points where a girl has bluntly said "why havent you kissed me yet" or they make the move themselves. if i was rejected i would possibly neg with "why are you trying to kiss me i dont want your girl cooties".

feel it out more so you dont get rejected, i think the last time i was rejected from a kiss by a girl i was still in middle school

do a hug test and or kiss on the cheek playfully and check for the reaction then go from there
 

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i prefer to keep it going and make her kiss me

but if u do get rejected just remain doin what u were doin before u went in and stay silent looking at her or whatever, make it so she is the one who has to come up with an explantion
 

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Just do Mystery's kiss-close. It's win-win.
 
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