Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your box is full... clean it out and then check your inbox.Originally posted by SAYNO
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
hahaha. that was by far the dumbest thing i have ever heard.Originally posted by SAYNO
Great post man, and to SSL type the biggest things hold iranians back is the fact that they come over here hating on americans.
Sayno
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Originally posted by jprjrjr
Trying to convince some people that racism comes in all colors, and not just white seems like an exercise in futility. As long as Americans are overly concerned with being politically correct, and not right, this will continue.
Yes, and quite a few use the money that they make of of these "white collor" professions to support terriost groups.Originally posted by jprjrjr
Nothing holds an iranian back. we go for the best. we become doctors, lawyers, plastic surgeons, and businessmen.
Sorry my Caucasian brethren... I want to feel bad for you, I really, really do.Originally posted by tristan22
^^^^^^^^^^
I've been saying this all along! Black entertainers seem to get the go ahead from society and the media, to vent their racial rants and everybody just smiles, turns their back, and supports them. Look at Kanye; he was rewarded with the number 1 selling album this week!
Wil Smith, Lauren Hill, Russell Simmons, Chris Rock etc have all publicly made racial comments towards whites, and nobody says a word. Their careers seem to flourish and their white fan base seems to grow. The double standard just doesn't make sense to me.
If you make a racial comment and your white, kiss your career goodbye!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well, I was more referring to the poster above you, and since you used his quote, I assumed that you may share the same skin.Originally posted by tristan22
Why are you speculating that i'm white?
Originally posted by tristan22
^^^^^
See why it's not a good idea to speculate!
I will agree with you, walking by someone and having them clutch their purse is both insulting and embarassing. But having someone publicly yell racist rants is just plain wrong!
Yes, and quite a few use the money that they make of of these "white collor" professions to support terriost groups.
Sayno' [/B]
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.