Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your box is full... clean it out and then check your inbox.Originally posted by SAYNO
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
hahaha. that was by far the dumbest thing i have ever heard.Originally posted by SAYNO
Great post man, and to SSL type the biggest things hold iranians back is the fact that they come over here hating on americans.
Sayno
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Originally posted by jprjrjr
Trying to convince some people that racism comes in all colors, and not just white seems like an exercise in futility. As long as Americans are overly concerned with being politically correct, and not right, this will continue.
Yes, and quite a few use the money that they make of of these "white collor" professions to support terriost groups.Originally posted by jprjrjr
Nothing holds an iranian back. we go for the best. we become doctors, lawyers, plastic surgeons, and businessmen.
Sorry my Caucasian brethren... I want to feel bad for you, I really, really do.Originally posted by tristan22
^^^^^^^^^^
I've been saying this all along! Black entertainers seem to get the go ahead from society and the media, to vent their racial rants and everybody just smiles, turns their back, and supports them. Look at Kanye; he was rewarded with the number 1 selling album this week!
Wil Smith, Lauren Hill, Russell Simmons, Chris Rock etc have all publicly made racial comments towards whites, and nobody says a word. Their careers seem to flourish and their white fan base seems to grow. The double standard just doesn't make sense to me.
If you make a racial comment and your white, kiss your career goodbye!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, I was more referring to the poster above you, and since you used his quote, I assumed that you may share the same skin.Originally posted by tristan22
Why are you speculating that i'm white?
Originally posted by tristan22
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See why it's not a good idea to speculate!
I will agree with you, walking by someone and having them clutch their purse is both insulting and embarassing. But having someone publicly yell racist rants is just plain wrong!
Yes, and quite a few use the money that they make of of these "white collor" professions to support terriost groups.
Sayno' [/B]
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.