I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your box is full... clean it out and then check your inbox.Originally posted by SAYNO
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hahaha. that was by far the dumbest thing i have ever heard.Originally posted by SAYNO
Great post man, and to SSL type the biggest things hold iranians back is the fact that they come over here hating on americans.
Sayno
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by jprjrjr
Trying to convince some people that racism comes in all colors, and not just white seems like an exercise in futility. As long as Americans are overly concerned with being politically correct, and not right, this will continue.
Yes, and quite a few use the money that they make of of these "white collor" professions to support terriost groups.Originally posted by jprjrjr
Nothing holds an iranian back. we go for the best. we become doctors, lawyers, plastic surgeons, and businessmen.
Sorry my Caucasian brethren... I want to feel bad for you, I really, really do.Originally posted by tristan22
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I've been saying this all along! Black entertainers seem to get the go ahead from society and the media, to vent their racial rants and everybody just smiles, turns their back, and supports them. Look at Kanye; he was rewarded with the number 1 selling album this week!
Wil Smith, Lauren Hill, Russell Simmons, Chris Rock etc have all publicly made racial comments towards whites, and nobody says a word. Their careers seem to flourish and their white fan base seems to grow. The double standard just doesn't make sense to me.
If you make a racial comment and your white, kiss your career goodbye!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well, I was more referring to the poster above you, and since you used his quote, I assumed that you may share the same skin.Originally posted by tristan22
Why are you speculating that i'm white?
Originally posted by tristan22
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See why it's not a good idea to speculate!
I will agree with you, walking by someone and having them clutch their purse is both insulting and embarassing. But having someone publicly yell racist rants is just plain wrong!
Yes, and quite a few use the money that they make of of these "white collor" professions to support terriost groups.
Sayno' [/B]
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.