"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Just let her go, not sure I should have?
- Thread starter Twodogs
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sylvester the cat
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it's called Enabling. Which means she's attracted to men who treat her like shiit.Twodogs said:
eject now before it's too late.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enabling
Dgwizdal
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I was in a situation with a girl that i dated 3 months. 3 weeks ago a man showed up in her cell phone. she's texting and calling each other . i asked her who is he : she replied= he's just a friend. Big red flag.
Noticed he's calling more often than a normal friend should, yesterday i came her by surprise to her house she was ready to get to the shower . i asked her if she was going somewhere ? she said no. imagine my surprise that by looking into her WhatsApp msg i saw she was planing to meet this guy. she shaved her legs for this.
I cut it today . my heart is broken, lost all trust in her. same situation as you but a bit different.
Joe.
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Why would you want to be with a woman that has a few positive qualities but has also a COUPLE OF PRETTY BAD ONES?
1. MET HER ON dating site.
2. flirty behaviour with other men.
3. failed relationships and has children with two men.
4. BDP syndrom.
5. Hides stuff from you.
6. Drama maker.
Just go out there and fin a normal, regular woman without so much trouble, unless you want to be miserable of course...