Michele l'Arcangelo
Master Don Juan
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you should go to a forum and post nude pics through PMs to me... i mean to show him what hes missing out on.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah don't act like irrational chick and come out swinging and crying.jwtile said:Any adivce on how to deal with this?
\DJDamage said:Yeah don't act like irrational chick and come out swinging and crying.
If this was a court of law, and you told a judge that all you have are pictures of him laying on the bed and her writing as your only evidance, then its not enough to convict.
If he is cheating then obviously he is going to deny it and if he is not cheating then he is going to tell you the truth.
You need to gather more evidance before you confront him and possibly end it. Maybe this chick has it for your boyfriend and want to break the two of you apart so she can nab him. Although the fact that he was laying on her bed is not a good sign.
jwtile said:\
For sure hes cheating she posted new pics of her and him kissing n stuff from the "mall" pics. It looks like she has a belly. I bet she did that to trap him cuz she knew he was with me.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Drama is addictive.Rhoto said:Why are you still giving this chump any of your attention?
I am surprised that your boyfriend didn't freak out yet and told this girl to take the picture's down before his girlfriend sees them, or she doesn't even know about you and he is playing both of you. It would have been ok if he said he only want to date the two of you and then you can take it or leave it but since he made a committment then it changes things.jwtile said:For sure hes cheating she posted new pics of her and him kissing n stuff from the "mall" pics.
It doesn't matter if you are prettier. You and him are probably what in your late teens, early 20's? this is the time of a man's life where he shouldn't even entertain an exclusive relationship. He is young and still wanted to fvck around and not be with one girl from the begining to the end of his life.jwtile said:It looks like she has a belly. I bet she did that to trap him cuz she knew he was with me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
jwtile said:Wow guys thanks for the advice. I guess I know what I have to do. Ive never been so heart broken or betrayed like that, and I know it's best to move on. Ive never felt so bad so any tips on how to deal/brealing up would help. *Gasp*. This is probably the hardest thing ive ever had to do and have been through.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.