"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just Found Out Boyfriend is Cheating on Me

Michele l'Arcangelo

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you should go to a forum and post nude pics through PMs to me... i mean to show him what hes missing out on.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DJDamage

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jwtile said:
Any adivce on how to deal with this?
Yeah don't act like irrational chick and come out swinging and crying.

If this was a court of law, and you told a judge that all you have are pictures of him laying on the bed and her writing as your only evidance, then its not enough to convict.

If he is cheating then obviously he is going to deny it and if he is not cheating then he is going to tell you the truth.

You need to gather more evidance before you confront him and possibly end it. Maybe this chick has it for your boyfriend and want to break the two of you apart so she can nab him. Although the fact that he was laying on her bed is not a good sign.
 

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i tell everyone i know who gets cheated on over and over again. if someone cheats on you they obviously don't love you.
 

jwtile

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DJDamage said:
Yeah don't act like irrational chick and come out swinging and crying.

If this was a court of law, and you told a judge that all you have are pictures of him laying on the bed and her writing as your only evidance, then its not enough to convict.

If he is cheating then obviously he is going to deny it and if he is not cheating then he is going to tell you the truth.

You need to gather more evidance before you confront him and possibly end it. Maybe this chick has it for your boyfriend and want to break the two of you apart so she can nab him. Although the fact that he was laying on her bed is not a good sign.
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For sure hes cheating she posted new pics of her and him kissing n stuff from the "mall" pics. It looks like she has a belly. I bet she did that to trap him cuz she knew he was with me.
 

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jwtile said:
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For sure hes cheating she posted new pics of her and him kissing n stuff from the "mall" pics. It looks like she has a belly. I bet she did that to trap him cuz she knew he was with me.

Why are you still giving this chump any of your attention?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jitterbug

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Rhoto said:
Why are you still giving this chump any of your attention?
Drama is addictive.
 

Rhoto

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Then at least find drama that doesn't make you think your world is going to end. Find some low grade drama.
 

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Men have been telling women that for millenia, and it still hasn't worked so far, mate. :D
 

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jwtile said:
For sure hes cheating she posted new pics of her and him kissing n stuff from the "mall" pics.
I am surprised that your boyfriend didn't freak out yet and told this girl to take the picture's down before his girlfriend sees them, or she doesn't even know about you and he is playing both of you. It would have been ok if he said he only want to date the two of you and then you can take it or leave it but since he made a committment then it changes things.

jwtile said:
It looks like she has a belly. I bet she did that to trap him cuz she knew he was with me.
It doesn't matter if you are prettier. You and him are probably what in your late teens, early 20's? this is the time of a man's life where he shouldn't even entertain an exclusive relationship. He is young and still wanted to fvck around and not be with one girl from the begining to the end of his life.

You can accept that fact end it and move on or do the same but let him know before hand that you going to be fvcking other guys since he had his fun and now its yours. I bet that won't sit well with him and he will be crying and acting like a b1tch and beg for forgiveness, if he still cares.
 

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Dump him and move on after getting yourself some time, or don't and deal with the emotional and mental wreck and mind games you'll have.

Either way, do it soon because drama is the biggest turn off ever and the stupidest thing in the world.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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DonGorgon

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jwtile said:
Wow guys thanks for the advice. I guess I know what I have to do. Ive never been so heart broken or betrayed like that, and I know it's best to move on. Ive never felt so bad so any tips on how to deal/brealing up would help. *Gasp*. This is probably the hardest thing ive ever had to do and have been through.

Welcome to the human experience, please refrain from finger pointing and naive lamentations about the obvious... MOst humans cheat, cause we are not instinctively monogamous creatures!

The only solution is to not focus on monogamy just get all you can out of the relationship for as long as you can put up with the negatives with tend to get worse over time as attraction fades...
 

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Email him pictures of you gettin it on with a well hung guy, that will piss him off
 

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Thanks everybody who helped me deal with this. I broke up with him last week and havent talked to him since. I did make sure to tell the other girl, and I did tell him off telling him how worthless he is. But yeah Im glad this drama is over.
 

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Thanks everybody who helped me deal with this. I broke up with him last week and havent talked to him since. I did make sure to tell the other girl, and I did tell him off telling him how worthless he is. But yeah Im glad this drama is over.
 

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Thanks everybody who helped me deal with this. I broke up with him last week and havent talked to him since. I did make sure to tell the other girl, and I did tell him off telling him how worthless he is. But yeah Im glad this drama is over.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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